EAR: Genuine ethical dilemma or am I a Drama Queen

[El Presidente]

EAR: Email Assistance Required

 

"So I went out of my way to hook this dude up with my driver out in Havana. I mean, usually, he's a solid guy at the local cigar lounge, right? He knew my driver’s tight with me—I told him straight up: I pay $50 a day from 10 a.m. to 11 p.m., cover meals, and throw in extra when it’s an overnight in PDR. Made sure he got all that.

So he goes down, uses my guy for three days. Last day, he tries to hand my driver 25 bucks a day. My driver’s standing there like, ‘Wait, what?’ ’Cause we’d already set the fee. I hit him up, like, ‘What’s going on?’ And he has the nerve to tell me I’m getting hustled and that he offered the “standard rate.”

Now I’m like, do I have a right to feel like dropping him next time I see him, or am I just being extra? 'Cause, come on, whether I’m getting “scammed” or not isn’t even the point here."

 

Does he have a point..... or is he being a drama queen? 

[B44]

Cheapskate can suck a D

[Boss Hog]

28 minutes ago, B44 said:

Cheapskate can suck a D

Couldn’t of said it better myself.

[ayedfy]

Only one person’s trying to hustle here and it’s not the driver.

If a friend told me they pulled this stuff on a worker at the last minute, I’d probably think less of that friend. If they pulled it on someone *I knew* I’d think even less of them. If they pulled it on someone I knew, *and that I had specifically helped set them up with*, I’d be ropable. It’s not just disrespectful to the driver at that point, it’s disrespectful to your friend.

[westg]

My personal standpoint. 

I would feel like a right pos paying someone 50 notes a day for the hours you just gave. I could not do it. No matter where it is in the world or what there circumstances are and what they may or not get paid.It would be far more than that.

When people show you who they are, believe them. 

 

[riderpride]

I'll gladly donate to either topping the driver up or the legal costs that may ensue for taking a moral stand. This idiot took advantage of the driver and whomever asked the question to EP. 

Throws away at least 2 relationships  and his rep for a friggen $75... 

Not that I'd condone violence or anything 🤔 

Good luck!

[Lamboinee]

That's rude. He should honor the agreed upon price. Under some circumstances maybe I may even consider covering for my buddy's deficiency. Seems like the driver is a good connection and I'm sure the buddy recommendation eliminated doubts and facilitated the whole transaction. That alone has value. Also, $50/day for guided at-will transportation in a foreign country!?! What a bargain. If you drove even 1hr and used one gallon of gas, the time, gas expense, and convenience make It worth it IMO. Pay the $50/day + expenses, enjoy the ride, and be thankful.

 

[Lamboinee]

1 hour ago, riderpride said:

legal costs that may ensue for taking a moral stand

Moral costs are the most expensive form of legal expense. 

[Fuzz]

No offence, but that dude is a prick. And a cheap prick to boot.

[Li Bai]

Yeah, everything has been said, I'd apologise and pay the driver what he should have been paid myself (plus a bonus for putting him in that situation) and move forward, there's no time to waste with cheap *ss pr*cks.

Btw, 50 USD a day may be a lot for your driver but here in France it would only take you 10 km outside Paris, maybe the guy should re-evaluate the fee agreed upon, I don't really care if most do it for 25 bucks I'd be more comfortable giving him a 100 a day, but that's just me 🤔

[cnov]

Nothing much more to be said, as @Li Bai and others have said, I would be paying the driver the extra myself and ensuring that the other party realises that they will no longer be getting my help or guidance in any respect.

 

[Ken Gargett]

what i find puzzling is that the bloke actually bothered to email about this. or do you just steal stuff from dear abbey? what is wrong with him? someone does that then you should drop the largest anchor on their head he can find. why the hell the need to ask? 

if he has agreed at the start, that is the end of it unless the driver does not do a good job or tries to dud him. but if the driver holds up his end, then the bloke should pay up. especially such a tiny amount. disgraceful. 

and seriously, make a decision yourself (talking to the person who emailed you). that one is not difficult. and if you are wondering, you really should never have anything to do with your tosser mate again. he has very carefully established exactly what sort of person he is. 

[JY0]

I'd make the driver whole and never speak to the 'friend' again. This is an easy one.

[Chitmo]

Vouching for someone is a big deal in my books, if they make you look like a tool it’s a friendship breaker for me. That said, when I vouch for someone and they shit the bed I clean up the mess. 

[BrightonCorgi]

I'd be livid at that guy for doing this. We are talking "chump change", but a day's pay to the driver. I am sure he's wasted more than $25 a day on food and drinks he didn't need at home.

I agree with @JY0. Give driver the difference and write your "friend" off as being a bum.

 

[joeypots]

11 hours ago, B44 said:

Cheapskate can suck a D

 

10 hours ago, Boss Hog said:

Couldn’t of said it better myself.

Cheapskate can suck a bag of D

[gormag38]

Yeah your dude from the lounge sounds like a douche. He needs to quit being so damn dutch and fork over the money agreed upon by you and the driver initially. People being cheap asses irks me. I by no means am 'rich' but ALWAYS tip appropriately/over. Even more so when I am in a country where my modest means would be a kings ransom to 95% of the population. 

There's almost never a need for physical violence, but I am not above a good public shaming at the lounge next time you see him. 😉😆

[gormag38]

2 hours ago, Chitmo said:

Vouching for someone is a big deal in my books, if they make you look like a tool it’s a friendship breaker for me. That said, when I vouch for someone and they shit the bed I clean up the mess.

Also, I couldn't agree more with this statement here. If I vouch for someone and they don't come through, I personally make sure I do everything I can to make sure the wronged party is taken care of. 

[Chibearsv]

16 hours ago, El Presidente said:

I mean, usually, he's a solid guy at the local cigar lounge, right?

I wouldn't vouch for an aquaintence. I'm happy to make introductions, but I'd let them cut their own deals. Friends are a different ball game; I don't have many, but the ones I do are as good as gold. If they agree to something, or if they let me cut a deal on their behalf count it done, even if they think they could have done better.

[teamrandr]

Cut him off.

[Ford2112]

The guy is a complete tool and a bellend. Bye Felicia!

[RDB]

I’d send my driver 75 bucks and tell the other guy to **** himself.

[mikejh]

I'd check with this guy first to see what the problem was and then go from there, I know that already happened in a way, but maybe there is more to the story.

[MrBirdman]

Most of the EARs pose tough questions. This ain’t one of them. You referred the driver business and the cheapskate tried to short-change him. Anyone who pulls something like that over $25 is a jerkoff. 

[chasy]

Publicly shame him. It's very effective.