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Well, this was a weekend to forget.  My dad's been fighting a good fight against cancer but his quality of life in the past year has really suffered and after his last round of chemo really hurt him (this isn't a statement against chemo, without chemo/radiation we'd have lost him 2 years ago).

Friday morning my mom called me at work and said that Hospice was at the house and they were estimating he had 4-5 days left to live.  I told my boss and he told me to get the hell out of here and go home.  I'm so very grateful he did.

About 35 minutes later I'm at my parent's house and things have taken a dramatic turn for the worse.  20 minutes later he had passed on.  I was able to be there for my mom.

In this day and age it's basically impossible to keep a secret.  My brother was made aware of the hospice timeframe so he ditched the golf tournament he was playing in and got on the road, but since he lives in the Twin Cities he had a 4 hour drive ahead of him.  Mom didn't want me to tell him the news right away so he could focus on driving.

News of dad's passing spread like wildfire and a classmate of his sent a facebook message to both of us. She later pulled his name from the message but my brother knew something was up.  I don't blame her one bit because there's no way for her to know and she was pretty close to the family, but I suppose that's just a sign of the times.

I know its easy to say he's not in pain anymore, which while true, means he's no longer with us.  But the memories we have of him and his legacy still live within those of us that were fortunate enough to interact with Dale.

Cancer is such an insidious foe.  

Here's a couple articles the local paper wrote about him.

http://www.inforum.com/sports/4089301-hawley-legend-dale-skallerud-dies-after-11-year-fight-cancer

http://www.inforum.com/sports/4075660-hawleys-skallerud-never-stopped-working-prep-athletes-wont-stop-fighting-cancer

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skalls

Well, this was a weekend to forget.  My dad's been fighting a good fight against cancer but his quality of life in the past year has really suffered and after his last round of chemo really hurt him (

rickthecabbie

Thank you so much for sharing the articles about your dad with us. I know well how hard it is to go through a loss like this. Cancer took my dad 11 years ago, and even now, there is not a single d

El Presidente

Sincere condolences to you and your family mate.  Reading the articles the following stood out :  "I think about integrity when I think about him," What a fantastic epitaph for any of us 

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It sounds like your father was quite a guy. There is really nothing anyone can say at times like these to make them any better, but you obviously have a lot of people thinking of you and supporting you, and your father was very much loved and respected. We all one day lose our parents, I'm down to one who is fading fast myself. It is inevitable, but never easy. Take some time for yourself to grieve, and always remember what a positive force your father has been in your life. You are indeed lucky to have had such a father.

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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I agree cancer is evil, it seems to always target the ones that make the biggest impact on those around us.

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Sorry for your loss and my deepest condolences to you and your family

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Sorry for your loss.

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1 hour ago, skalls said:

Well, this was a weekend to forget.  My dad's been fighting a good fight against cancer but his quality of life in the past year has really suffered and after his last round of chemo really hurt him (this isn't a statement against chemo, without chemo/radiation we'd have lost him 2 years ago).

Friday morning my mom called me at work and said that Hospice was at the house and they were estimating he had 4-5 days left to live.  I told my boss and he told me to get the hell out of here and go home.  I'm so very grateful he did.

About 35 minutes later I'm at my parent's house and things have taken a dramatic turn for the worse.  20 minutes later he had passed on.  I was able to be there for my mom.

In this day and age it's basically impossible to keep a secret.  My brother was made aware of the hospice timeframe so he ditched the golf tournament he was playing in and got on the road, but since he lives in the Twin Cities he had a 4 hour drive ahead of him.  Mom didn't want me to tell him the news right away so he could focus on driving.

News of dad's passing spread like wildfire and a classmate of his sent a facebook message to both of us. She later pulled his name from the message but my brother knew something was up.  I don't blame her one bit because there's no way for her to know and she was pretty close to the family, but I suppose that's just a sign of the times.

I know its easy to say he's not in pain anymore, which while true, means he's no longer with us.  But the memories we have of him and his legacy still live within those of us that were fortunate enough to interact with Dale.

Cancer is such an insidious foe.  

Here's a couple articles the local paper wrote about him.

http://www.inforum.com/sports/4089301-hawley-legend-dale-skallerud-dies-after-11-year-fight-cancer

http://www.inforum.com/sports/4075660-hawleys-skallerud-never-stopped-working-prep-athletes-wont-stop-fighting-cancer

God bless your family. 

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Skalls.

It is sad whenever a loved one is lost to the heavens. Let's all hope that during our sons and daughters lifetime there will be a solid cure for the various types of cancers.

My condolences and peace be with you and your family

 

 

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 Very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. Know that he is in a better place where there is no pain and suffering anymore. 

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It was so nice to be able to put a face with the name the other night on the WebEx Skalls. I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. You are correct Cancer is so tough on everyone. So much for you to go through right now. When the smoke clears I'd be happy to fire up a WebEx and have a cigar with you. Would love to hear some stories about him.

Prayers to you and your family.  

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I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest condolences and prayer go out to you and your family brother.

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Very sorry to hear this, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and the articles about your dad. May he finally R.I.P.

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Skalls,

Sounds like your Father was a heck of a guy and a positive influence on a lot of lives.  He will surely be missed by all whose lives he touched.  May God rest his soul.  Please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss and may God grant you peace and comfort during your time of mourning.

God Bless You,

Bill

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