Home run on the first night?

[Kangaroo495]

Was discussing this with mates the other night. Thought I'd throw it out onto the forum (seeing as we're mostly blokes here) to see what opinion everyone has.

Questions are:

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

Any other thoughts/comments? Looking forward to hearing them!

-K495

PS: Sorry Smithy, if this has nothing to do with cigars, I'm hoping the subject of "women" will divert your attention.

[El Presidente]

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

booze

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

The fact that she wants to meet my wife has me excited...and just a little worried.

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

Not with either of them.

Any other thoughts/comments? Looking forward to hearing them!

-K495

[Kangaroo495]

The fact that she wants to meet my wife has me excited...and just a little worried.

You still telling everyone your wife is Brad Pitt? I though we already established that you prefer bald men..?

[sandholm]

Was discussing this with mates the other night. Thought I'd throw it out onto the forum (seeing as we're mostly blokes here) to see what opinion everyone has.

Questions are:

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

Beeing me. Have you read "The Game"? You should probably start there.

EDIT: This is the book: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Game-Neil-Strauss/...0017&sr=8-1

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

You mean that guys should be allow to go home on the first date, but a girl who do that should be judged? That is quite narrow minded , girls/women also like sex, same as guys. Its 2010 for crying out loud.

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

Why not? What has sex or one night stand (if you are not in a relationship) to do with a long term relationship. Why dont you ask yourself "How will this girl view me if i invite here over on the first date?" I am now married, but before i had long relationship with girls that i invited over on the first night, and i had really short relationships with girl I had to work quite hard for.

Some guys are more in for the chase then the catch, but then the relationship dont fail due to sex on the first date but that the guy is rather immature.

just my thoughts....

[asmith]

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

Like Ayala said, lots of booze cause I have given up on that charm crap.

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

Not worried about that as I too should loaded with booze and not thinking that clearly, however the next morning will make me think

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

I refuse to have long term relationships.

As for the lack of association to cigars, I would have had a cigar out that night at the bar so this thread is all good.

[khomeinist]

1. Alcohol. Throwing around money and talking about one's supposed medical practice also work.

2. Experienced woman! Oh god. I need to stop at the pharmacy. Time to load up on Viagra, condoms, and aspirin.

3. Relationships? Please. Hope she doesn't dial that fake number I passed her and get my sister-in-law's voice-mail.

I agree that the 'good-girl' thing is overrated. They are all trouble.

Tongue. Cheek. Etc.

[samb]

As a younger guy, I think youd do well to definitely enjoy your being single and still having the opportunity to bring home girls. To get them home, yes, a lot of booze. To keep them, eh, I think if you met them in a bar, you probably didnt have too much opportunity talk and get to know each other. Kudos to you for hitting it quick on the first night, but I think it would be best to just leave it as one night deal, unless you think the girl has some potential. Maybe try taking her out for breakfast and actually get to know her. Then and only then do I think you may have a chance at a relationship with the chick. If she just wants your balls cuz shes liquored up, leave it at that and move on and feel glad at what you just got to do.

[brutusthebuckeye]

Booze...

Skank....(unless she is freshly divorced or dumped) or atleast tell me that!!!(not anymore cuz i b married)

If she's cool and not an outright tramp,bar fly etc,etc....give er a shot Bro!!!!!

[BobLobLaw]

You mean that guys should be allow to go home on the first date, but a girl who do that should be judged? That is quite narrow minded , girls/women also like sex, same as guys. Its 2010 for crying out loud.

A key that can open several locks is called a master key. A lock that can be opened by many keys is just a crappy lock.

I can also refer you to Seinfeld, The Abstinence when both George and Elaine cannot have sex for a period of time. George becomes a genius because the 99% of his brain previously devoted to trying to have sex is free to engage in other activities. Elaine becomes an idiot because to women sex is like taking out the trash all they have to do is put the bag on the curb and some guy will come pick it up. No pickups and the bags of trash are just piling up.

Overall the double standard exists because women as a whole control sex.

[mkz]

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

Let her talk about herself and her interest. Be a good listener and look into her eyes when you talk to her, not her cleavage.

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

In my opinion: a damn fine girl with good taste. Kudos to her!!

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

The last girl I had a "first night" with is now my wife since three years back...

[ImTripN2]

Questions are:

1. How do you get to "home base" with a girl, the first time you meet (i.e. in a bar/club etc) without paying for it?

You don't. The first time is entirely up to the woman, unless you get her so hammered she doesn't know or care, and what fun is that? Acting like you're not that interested works well, believe it or not.

2. In your opinion, what does this say about the girl, if she does come home with you (and you're not paying)?

See above, but if you have to get her sloppy drunk in the first place, what does that say about you? Plus, if you do get her home chances are good you can get her to stay for the weekend!

3. Is there any chance for a long term relationship as a consequence of this first night?

Yeah there is. I went home with a waitress one night, and it took seventeen years and two kids before I got rid of her.

[Nedule]

1. It's a woman, so you'll pay one sooner or later, amount to be determined

2. She's either super horny or has super issues

3. You may want to think this one through a bit more