Do you believe in the super natural....I think I'm starting too

[Quint]

I know this can turn into a touchy subject but I wanted to share this story hoping everybody remains respectful to one another's beliefs. It doesn't even have to turn into a debate but maybe others have similar eerie stories they'd like to share.

Many of you know my dad just passed way, until a few weeks ago he was the primary caregiver for my mom who is in advanced stages of altzimers. We wanted to keep my mom at home so hired a couple of other caregivers to go into the home 3 times a day to help my dad with her care. When my dad went into the hospital 3 1/2 weeks ago we needed to add what we thought would be temporary around the clock care for my mom. The 2 woman who were the original caregivers were friends of our who do that for a living. The temporary help came from an organization called Visiting Angles. We had them mainly for overnight care.

So my dad was unable to recover from his condition despite the efforts of the doctors and nurses at the hospital and we had to make the call either feeding tube the rest of his life with a mental state getting worse (delirium) or let him pass. We decided it was time and he would be pissed if we chose the other option. So dad was admitted to hospice care which is a end of life care. He was admitted on Tuesday and we were told he has less than 24 hrs. He had not eaten or drank anything in 2 weeks. He finally passed 5 days later Sunday morning at 1:05am.

At 8:30 Sunday morning the caregiver shift was changing and the have a 15 minute crossover where they fill the person coming in to events and condition of my mom from the previous shift. The caregiver said everything was quiet except around 1am my mom started screaming out my dads name. Neither the care giver nor obviously my mom knew of my dads passing. My mom doesn't know any of us and barely remembers my father at this point in the diseases progression. Now in not a very spiritual man, I have more questions than answers, skeptical about "ghosts" etc. but as an engineer and logical man how do I explain away that at that time my father passed away in home, in a different city, my mother who is advanced stage altzimers wakes from a sleep and starts yelling his name. Very very eerie.

[Jones]

Very interesting story, and I am sorry for your loss. A skeptic would say its the same phenomenon when your thinking of a song and then that song comes on the radio. You simply dont remember all the times when you were thinking of a song and it didn't come on the radio. So you only rember the times you were right leading you to perceive something that really isnt represented by the statistics. So perhaps you dont recall all the other times this happend and it didnt correlate to anything.

[Perla]

In 1999 my father passed away in the middle of the night.

My sister & brother in law where sleeping over by my Mum. My other sister where somewhere in a lodge in the middle of Tuscany.

I was 350 km far away from my father. In the very moment my father passed, everybody of the family woke up and everybody knew he passed away. Consistent ? Don't believe in that. Spiritual ? May be. I am not very religion, not at all.

I believe in bonding. We all had a very tight connection/bonding to my father, for me there is a possibility that we can or are able to feel what will be in the very moment. Even if the beloved die.

In all those years I asked myself, if I would ever feel the same when my mother will die. In 2013 my mother died and it was the same experience to me.

[Orion21]

This world is full of mysteries that we can't possibly understand. I always find it hilarious we think, based on personal experience, that whatever we experience exists and what we haven't (or can't prove) doesn't. I have not had any experience similar to your's, but I believe there is much more to the world, and the universe, than meets the eye.

However, I can attest to an experience I witnessed that happened to my wife. Her grandfather passed away about a year ago ( a great friend of mine). Hospice came to his home to take care of him and on the day he died we were all playing cards in the kitchen. During a hand my wife looked up, dropped her cards and ran for his room. He had just passed away. It wasn't a scream, or a ghost, but it was something. I will go to my grave thinking that because of their extremely close bond when he took his last breath something I can't explain happened. His soul communicated with subconsciously to her's and said goodbye in some form that alerted her to what had just happened. Ghosts, spirits etc., I don't know, but I wouldn't be surprised...

[Guest rob]

Very interesting, and maybe a nice little wonderment to reflect on, and a moment to try not to hard to understand.

Many years ago, my grandmother in Italy was in a terrible accident that essentially put her in hospital, and she died soon after.

My father, who absolutely adored his mother, woke in the middle of the night here in Australia with an incredibly bad dream, and a bloody nose that ran like a tap. He hadn't had a bloody nose since he was a teenager. It ends up that the time of death, and the time of his waking were all but the exact same time, to within a minute or so.

[DoubleDD]

I 100% believe in the supernatural and after life. A week after my grandfather passed, in the bedroom in which he passed at my fathers house, my father heard several noises so he went in to investigate. He took a picture with his phone and there was a perfect cloudy facial outline of my grandfather standing behind a rocking chair. Eerie but very cool.

[Geo17pip]

Sorry for your loss Quint. My father passed away in 2008. He wasn’t old but he just got sick and then had to go to the hospital and eventually passed. I don’t remember exactly how long after but I woke up in the morning as usual one day and was making breakfast in the kitchen when my sister came in. I said I had a dream last night about dad and she said "wait, what.. me too!" It turns out that we had exactly the same dream of him after explaining our dreams to each other. Now tell me, how is that possible? Coincidence? Maybe, but I definitely believe there is an afterlife and they still visit or are present sometimes in the form of energy or spirit.

The other day I was fishing with my sister who believes in all that ghost stuff and energy/spirits when we started talking about a friend who unfortunately took his own life this past fall. I was telling her now I never really was "visited" by him (although I did have a dream about him) and right after that a white moth came out of nowhere flying around me (note I was smoking a cigar and doubt moths like the smoke) and eventually it landed on my face, with cigar in mouth. My sister was like oh that was him saying hi visiting in the form of an animal.

Interesting stuff and yes definitely we don’t know everything out there or wouldn’t understand it yet but I do believe there has to be something. Maybe it comforts us thinking this or maybe it’s true. I guess we will find out one day.

[Puros Y Vino]

You don't need a spiritual or religious background to believe in the supernatural. Upon my fathers passing there were some strange occurrences. My mother heard him working in the backyard the night he died. His side of the bed was warm for a night or two afterwards. My brothers and I have some vivid dreams that night. (that necessarily isn't supernatural but it was interesting).

Whenever my brother brought his daughters to our mothers' house we'd sometimes notice them looking and reacting to seemingly empty spaces in the ceiling or down an empty hallway. This was when they were toddlers mind you. They'd be giggling and smiling to something we could not see. I'd like to think it was him saying hello and making them laugh.

[LeafLover]

Your father was saying goodbye to your mother. I think that is a beautiful thing.

You did a very brave and honorable thing for your dad to let him leave in peace and with dignity.

As an aside, I owned a Visiting Angels Franchise for ten years. Just sold it last year. Caregiving is a personal calling for those people. And they provide much help to those who care for their loved ones 24 hours a day.

[cigcars]

Ohhhh, listen Quint - this is a VERY common thing that happens to LOTS of us throughout the planet. Yes, you WILL find various occurrences of this type EVERYWHERE. And this is my tiny, tiny contribution here to tell you that just the things that have happened with our family could fill a BOOK. But be of good cheer and well rested. Sometimes the Creator, in my humble view, will allow the just departed to stick around and check on things before leaving for their other destinies, or just allow them to let you know that they are all right where they are. Like I said, these types of occurrences could and have filled volumes throughout the years, and NOT just wind, lighting, or "settling of the house" noises that some skeptics insist on claiming that they are. Thank you again for sharing

[ogus]

God is real and so is the spirit world. Consider though that the love of two people who live as one to be the greatest human bond even though it is often broken today.

[subport]

Well... my grandmother passed away in 2008. On her third child´s birthday. My uncle was always there with her throughout his life and he always said he wanted to be there with her in that moment. So it was on his birthday and they were 2 of them together on that day in the hospital in Hungary.

Earlier: I was in Iceland but they called me on Monday that I should go as soon as possible if I ever wanted to see her again in this life. Two days later I was in Hungary with her. She could not talk, could not move... I arrived late night to the hospital but they let me go in. So I went up to see her. She was almost there...but I heard voices in my head. Again, she could not talk or move or anything. I heard I needed to call his first son, who had never been there in the hospital. So I did. I asked him to come there otherwise she could not go away. He was arguing that his mother is not dying and can´t come and how crazy I am to saying things like that...blah blah but I did not stop. so he was driving there during the night and visited her. That was the last missing puzzle. Few hours later she passed away with my uncle there holding her hand. Well... this is how it was but nothing really surprising here. On the funeral I saw so many starlings flying away in the background and I knew no one else realised that moment. It was a message only to me. I felt it has something to do with. Well... since then every single 1st of November I had...always woke up and starlings are under my window. No matter I was in Iceland or in Hungary or in Germany it had happened the same way. So I know she is fine and sending her regards to me on those days.

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When my Dad passed I was in Iceland. Working as usual. 2o´clock pm I felt something strange. Like I was sick, felt dizzy and really bad. I had to go home and could´t do anything basically but the other day when I woke up I was just all right. Like nothing happened. No signs of illness or such... so I went to work as usual. Around lunch time I got a phone call from Hungary. It was my Mom. She told me my father passed away the day before afternoon. Went to Hungary of course met my family and my sister told me the same story what had happened to me. She felt sick, went home and so on... yeah coincidence right... we are just connected together in many ways we don´t even know what energies are out there.

[mash]

I'm very sorry for your loss. My dad died almost 2 years ago and we had to make a similar decision around his care. Making that decision from your dad's perspective was your last gift to him.

As someone who has looked after people with dementia for 25 years, I'd love to have some scientific explanation for your mom's story, but there isn't one. Your hypothesis is as good as any.

Your memories of your dad are like mine. It's very comforting, and obviously speaks to what a man he was.

[Overproof]

Six degrees of separation.

That woman (angel) was a chain in the link, put there for a reason. It's a beautiful thing that your Dad spoke to your Mum in spirit.

All the best.

[MIKA27]

I believe there is more to this world/realm than we know about, no doubt about it.

[oliverdst]

Not a "God" thing. In my opinion God doesnt modify our lives.

But there is a lot to understand about ourselves (power of mind and stuff like that).

[khamy]

thank you for sharing your experience and hope your keeping well during this time.

I think if you believe then it is a very re-assuring thing to have.

Like a good cigar, sometimes you don't know why its good or can't discern what flavour it is. You take out of it what you want and if it was a joyous moment the how and why doesn't really matter.

For me, when my grandfather passed away during my University years. i came home from a party late one night, i still lived at home at the time. My parents had gone to sleep but had put the chain on the door so even though i could open the door with my key i couldn't get in. Fair enough as we lived in a tough part of town. They couldn't hear my knocking so i sought of gave up and sat down (no mobile phones in those days). About 10 minutes sitting in silence my mother comes down and opens the door. She told me my grandfather came to her in a dream and told her i was waiting at the front door. It could be anything, she could have made it up to scare me, but i'm reassured to know and believe it to be true.

[Vortigan]

Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your father,my friend.I feel like this is a subject on which I could almost write a book,from both a personal and professional standpoint.However,speaking as a RN working in oncology for the last 10 years I can tell you that on many occasions I've had the privilege of being an assistance to many people as they leave this world.To keep them comfortable,pain free,maybe even hold their hands and comfort their families is a special privilege indeed.

I believe that the love and the connections between people are far deeper and more intricate than any of us could ever know.And without going into many extraneous examples of why,I do believe beyond a shadow of doubt that what you've described was indeed the connection between your mum and dad being made whole again,just for a moment,as he left.Somehow and in some way,in some realm,I believe that he's reached out to her in that moment and told her what he needed to say.That they were together and whole again,just for a moment.

Wishing love and peace for you and your family

[KRunch61]

Very sorry for your loss, Quint. My dad passed away nine years ago. I've always been very skeptical about an afterlife, but considering how many things I've been wrong about in my life, just maybe...